The teenage period is challenging for everyone. If you’re having trouble understanding your teen, remember that you too went through this phase. You may also have experienced confusion, stress and irritability along with new enthusiasm and energy. Today, your children are going through the same thing—but in a changed world.
This is not the time to hold them tightly, but to relax and understand. Let us know how to understand children better in adolescence and how to build a strong relationship with them.
1. Preparation is important
It is important to prepare children in advance for their life challenges. Psychiatrist Dr. Unnati Kumar says:
“There is a right time for everything, and we must give the necessary information to children before that time comes.”
For example, if your child is growing older, talk openly about the physical and mental changes associated with it. By giving the right information at the right time, children will be able to face the upcoming challenges in a better way.
2. Teach to recognize emotions
Help children understand and express their feelings. Let them know that negative emotions are natural and that they are part of their identity.
- Teach them that emotions are signals that help us understand ourselves and the world around us.
- When they are angry or irritable, let them know that this is normal and how to control it.
- Help them understand their feelings by giving examples of characters from movies or their favorite TV shows.
3. Be patient and wait for the right time
Children do not understand emotions quickly, so be patient with them. Instead of making the conversation serious and boring, explain it in a light tone.
- Talk in a calm environment.
- Answer their questions according to their level.
- For example, if the child is angry, calm him down first and then talk.
4. Communicate openly
Mutual communication is the foundation of a strong relationship. Talk to your child regularly and understand his concerns.
- Answer their queries calmly.
- Avoid comparison.
- Respect their feelings.
5. Find a solution according to the needs of the child
Every age has different problems and needs. During adolescence, listen carefully to the words and arguments of children and find solutions accordingly.
- When your child was young, you could ignore his stubbornness.
- But talk to teens with facts and explain it to them.
- Take their views seriously and make them feel that their opinion matters.
6. Choose the right words
Be careful with your words and timing while answering the child’s questions.
- Give a clear answer in minimum words.
- If the time is not right (like early in the morning), discuss their question later.
- Tailor each answer to their understanding.
7. Don’t respond quickly
Do not react immediately to the child’s anger or irritability.
- Avoid punishing or scolding in anger.
- After calming them down, explain their mistake.
- Giving punishment in anger can develop negative emotions in children.
8. Become a role model yourself
Children learn what they see their parents doing.
- Show the right way to handle your anger and frustration.
- Express your feelings in a positive and healthy way.
- If you are feeling agitated, handle the baby only after you have calmed yourself down.
