Actor Jason Tham drew eyeballs when he recently shared screen space with Alia Bhatt in Jigra. But off-screen, his eyes are glued on his wife, Deekshha Sonalkar Tham, whom he married in 2021. Deekshha is an actor too and owes her popularity to Kaise Tum Mil Gaye. Ironically, that is the first question we asked Jason Tham – Kaise tum mil gaye?
Q. How did you first meet Deekshha?
A. Deekshha and I found each other in November 2015 on the set of Agent Raghav. She was playing the antagonist.
Q. What was your initial reaction when you saw her?
A. She was introduced by a common friend, my co-actor Aahana Kumra. I looked at Deekshha and couldn’t stop smiling.
Q. What are the traits that you found attractive in her?
A. She’s been honest, loyal, and weird in a good way.
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Q. What did she find attractive about you?
A. Well, in me, she found a funny boyfriend.
Q. What was the ice-breaker?
A. On the set, our team ate lunch together, and Deekshha joined us for one lunch. That’s how we started to get to know each other.
Q. Who took the initiative to fix a date?
A. It was weird, as we both were dating different partners at the time. One day, we decided to have a friendly lunch together, and guess what? It turned out to be a date.
Q. Where did you guys go for your first date?
A. Mia Cucina restaurant in Powai.
Q. Did you take anything for her on your first date, like flowers/chocolates, etc.?
A. No.
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Q. Are you a person who gives gifts?
A. Sometimes. But I did send her edibles, like food, cake, and cookies, the whole year around, if that counts.
Q. Who said ‘I love you’ first?
A. I did, after three days of knowing her.
Q. For how many days were you guys dating before you decided to marry?
A. Marriage was never on the cards when we started dating.
Q. Who proposed marriage?
A. In 2018, we had our engagement, and around three years later, we decided to marry.
Q. Did you face any opposition when you both decided to marry?
A. Nothing of that sort. Our families were very chill about it.
Q. Did you feel any cultural differences between her and you, since you are an American Indian of Chinese descent?
A. I’ve grown up in India almost all my life, so nothing surprises me in terms of culture. I eat spicier food than most Indians.
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Q. What adjustments, if any, did both of you make?
A. We have learned to live together and understand each other.
Q. Which ceremonies did you hold?
A. A Maharashtrian wedding followed by a reception. I was fascinated by the Maharashtrian customs and traditions.
Q. Who is more possessive between the two?
A. Maybe I am.
Q. Who is the funnier one between the two?
A. I am.
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Q. Who is the cleanliness freak?
A. I am.
Q. Who is short-tempered?
A. Deekshha.
Q. How has your relationship changed from the time you were boyfriend and girlfriend to now being husband and wife?
A. Well, apart from the responsibilities of the house and family, I think we are pretty chill and still young at heart. We still go on dates, and I still surprise her with doughnuts and pastries when I am not here.
Q. If Deekshha criticizes your performances or you criticize hers, is it taken in the right spirit?
A. The greatest strength of our relationship is that we both are actors. We practise our auditions together and share how we could improve a scene. We are honest about our opinions; there is no filter. And most importantly, we motivate each other.
Q. Love for you is:
A. Food.
Q. How do you resolve a fight?
A. A fight may be big or small, but we do not carry it forward till the next day. It’s very difficult to sleep with an unresolved fight. Fighting itself is a painful task; losing sleep over it is even more detrimental to health.
Q. What goes into making a marriage work?
A. Love is an emotion that comes and goes; it can’t be controlled. What we can control is the CCR of marriage – Communication, Compromise and Respect. When love takes a back seat, it’s very important to listen to the other.
